My wife adopts a growth mindset to marriage. She sees marriage as an opportunity to change and improve each other. And you know what? Like with everything, except in the pronunciation of “jewelry” and “realtor,” she is absolutely right.
No other force in this planet has made me want to change as much as this pale yooper*. Back in Venezuela I was known to finish every argument with “I am what I am.” Long gone are those times.
Since being graced by her companionship, I’ve volunteered, learned to draw, exercised, reached out to people more, and I have undeniably become better at human-ing. And these things happen almost by osmosis, just by being around her. I still have lots to go, I haven’t adopted her eye for detail yet.
Times are tough all over, some days I’m barely pulling through. But I’m with my best friend. The moments of joy I have found in these times have been mostly because of my wife. Joy is there when we travel, when we laugh together, and joy was there when we adopted our little dober-goblins. Joy is still around if we look for it.
So join me in wishing a very Happy Birthday to the real, three-dimensional and complex creature that is Roxanne! Her presence in my life is the single best part about it.
* a yooper is a species of humans grown in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan. My wife came in the rare vegetarian and liberal model, a testament of the wonderful family she comes from.
Past ideals were not 100% fleshed out.